Things are actually finally moving

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The theme of the majority of 2016 for us has been WAIT, be patient, this is a theme that whether we wanted to or not, we learned we had to embrace, we had to do it and we had no way around it. Waiting has been the major theme for us, from moving from a waiting to wait list, to a waiting list and now we officially are an active family with our agency.

The last couple weeks we finally received our completed home study and this was submitted to the agency yesterday, meaning that in the eyes of the State of New Mexico we are fit to adopt parents. We also had to fill out lots of paperwork and go over things that we would be OK and not OK in a child, this last part was hard as we had to go over a list of things that we would be willing, consider or not be willing to parent. Some things we would not have a problem and others we had to cross out the list. We say weird because this list really is something we would even have to think of if we had biological children, and we kept being told that “there is no wrong answer”, but it still felt a little strange to go over what we feel comfortable.

So at this point we basically are finishing up the paperwork (of which there is a lot when you are adopting) and mailing that back to the agency so they can officially show our profile to birth parents. We also just a couple days ago received our photo album, which we will be giving to the agency as well. Once that happens we literally could get a call in a matter of weeks or even months, it is out of our hands completely as we wait to get a call from the agency.

Again, we wait, but this time this could be the final waiting before we become parents.

Just keep on waiting…

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We’ve officially started our home study

A thing we have learned through out this adoption process is that when things are slow and silent, patience is the key to survival. Then when things are moving they are fast and they happen right away and there is no slowing down.

We won’t give too many details on exactly what happens during, but today officially marked the start of the home study process! Today we had our first home visit from our social worker who is conducting the study, which is huge. As we have said before, the home study is a 90 day process that is required for every adoption, after that we will be ready to be listed and have our album shown to birth mothers in hopes to picked by one to adopt their baby.

We’ll keep you posted as things progress, but this means we officially are taking the next huge step to meet Baby G!

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Birthmoms and what they mean to us

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(In order to protect the privacy of these brave women, we are omitting names or even stories we have heard, as those are not ours to tell).

One of the things we loved the most about the training we attended was the panel towards the end where we were introduced to adopted parents, adoptees and birthmothers who had placed their children for adoption. We really enjoyed hearing all of the stories and experiences, but what we got the most out of was the stories we heard from the birth mothers and their experience.

Before going to this training, one of the things that we had conversations about was the subject of open vs closed adoptions. We had talked with our friends that have adopted, and got a wide variety of feedback about their personal experiences. At first, the term “open adoption” seemed a bit daunting, and it was hard for us to visualize what that would look like. Based on our research, personal experience, and the guidance from others, we felt that a semi open adoption was something that we were interested in. Throughout the weekend, we felt our hearts be moved so deeply for the birthmoms that we met. We felt a confirmation in our hearts that having the option to contact the birth mom, and keep her or her family updated on the life of our child, is not only something that we are open to, but something that we are excited for. It is easy to get caught up in differences and worries. It is easy to worry about the things that make an open adoption sound scary. We have learned that although we may be very different in many ways, there is one thing that is the same. We both love this child. We both will make life changing sacrifices for this child. We both will see The Lord in new and amazing ways through the gift of adoption. We both are different pieces of the puzzle of who our child is, and we would not be complete without each other.

Birth mothers make a huge sacrifice when they decide to place their child for adoption, sometimes they decide on their own, sometimes the birth father or their parents are involved in their decision. Regardless of what moved them to make that decision, there is still grief, there is a loss and there is the need for healing. One of the things we loved the most about our agency is the fact that they continue to offer support and counseling to the birth families as well, as some agencies kind of just match and then it is the end of the story. They are often forgotten or just seen as a means to an end to a family who is adopting and then they are just left to deal with it on their own. We talked at length with the case worker during our consultation about the process of healing and what that looks like for them, which is why they encourage that even if a closed adoption is what the birth mom wants to still write letter and maybe send pictures to the agency as they have seen before that in some cases they will come or contact them just wanting to know how the child is doing and this also helps them heal and be reassured that they made the right choice.

We know nothing about our birth mother, if she will want an open or a closed adoption, if she will want to get pictures and letters or not. We don’t know what she likes, what her background is or anything. We don’t know if the birth father will be involved in the decision, or won’t care. There is so much we don’t know, but we are excited to get to that place, even if that is still a while away. Birth mothers are strong.

Things are getting real now…very real!

shutterstock_152604476-337x251We leave to Albuquerque, NM in just a few days to attend a mandatory CYFD adoption training through the adoption agency we are working with as stated in our previous blog post. This training serves a dual purposed, the first being of course a state required training in order to proceed with the adoption process and the second purpose to be introduced to the agency staff as well as officially begin the process of adoption. We are still a long ways away from actually having our child placed in our home and in our lives, but it is actually starting. This is actually happening.

The adoption process is officially starting.

For what has been about a year we have been getting our finances in order, praying, preparing and getting excited for one of the biggest adventures in our lives. This year has been very trying as we have been faced with our fears and have learned to overcome them (like for example, how in the world are we going to afford this?), but we have also grown closer and have been in the process of being molded into the parents that we are going to be.

But now things are getting real. It is no longer “hey, we are planning on adopting!”, it is shifting and transitioning into “we are starting the process of adoption”. This is the moment we have been waiting for, and some time in the future that will end in us being parents.

We are amazed at how things have progressed and there is still a long process to go, but we are excited that things are finally moving along and can’t wait to tell you all about the training and what our next steps will be.

Love,

The Guerreros

Coffee Adoption Fundraiser at Beck’s Coffee

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So one of the fundraisers we have been very excited and looking forward for a couple months was the Coffee Fundraiser hosted by our friends at Beck’s Coffee, a local coffee roasting company here in town.

It was great! Ty and Ariana are so knowledgeable as far as the different roasts of beans and different blends and made for a very successful lesson for our friends and family who were able to attend and we really learned a lot that we didn’t know (and we would consider ourselves coffee snob-ish people). Music was provided by Helene and Frank from a local duo called “The Two of Us”. Overall a great event.

This is the type of fundraising events that we love! Fundraising in general is fun, and it can feel a little awkward at times because no one likes asking people for money, but when you can put an event together and have people benefit out of it…that is even better and it makes fundraising totally worth it and fun!

We were also very proud to share with those that showed up that we have raised about 20% of our overall adoption goal since we began raising money for adoption, which we still don’t know how that is even possible. When we began researching agencies and finding out the cost of adoption, the total goal seemed like something that scared us, like something we thought we might never reach, but now that we are in full gear in fundraising that total number seems less scary every day. We have faith and know that we will get there and that even though it will take work, it will make it completely worth it in the end and even though the road is still long, we are starting to see the (far) light at the end of the tunnel and we know that some day we will reach it.

Thank you so much for all your love and support so far, it is thanks to all of our friends and family that the road to adoption is becoming easier and easier each day!

Love,

The Guerreros

T-shirt Campaign: One week left!

Only one week less to purchase a T-shirt as part of our campaign. We have been very thankful and happy to know that there is much support from friends that have purchased, or are planning on it.

Don’t forget to click here to purchase a T-shirt!

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(If you purchase a t-shirt, take a selfie with it and either post it on Social Media, text or e-mail it to us. We want to see how they look on y’all!)

First fundraiser: Over

Officially as of 12:00am on August 1st we closed our Go Fund Me campaign and we are both in awe of how generous everyone has been. We’ve received additional donations outside of Go Fund Me as well (GFM keeps a percentage of your donation, so some prefer just personal checks, which we totally get), but we can gladly say that this one in particular is over.

So what comes next?

As we have said in other blog posts, we are still not at our goal and are a long ways away. Yard sales? Events? T-shirts? All of the above!

We will be announcing our next fundraiser next weekend and we are pretty stoked about this one. Unlike Go Fund Me where we felt as though we were just asking people for money, the following ones will benefit our friends and family, while we raise funds to adopt Baby G.

From all 3 of us (Luis, Danielle and Baby G):

P.S. Even though we closed our GFM campaign, online contributions are still available via PayPal. Just CLICK HERE to be re-directed to that site.

We love you all so much and are so encouraged by your support!