Coffee Adoption Fundraiser at Beck’s Coffee

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So one of the fundraisers we have been very excited and looking forward for a couple months was the Coffee Fundraiser hosted by our friends at Beck’s Coffee, a local coffee roasting company here in town.

It was great! Ty and Ariana are so knowledgeable as far as the different roasts of beans and different blends and made for a very successful lesson for our friends and family who were able to attend and we really learned a lot that we didn’t know (and we would consider ourselves coffee snob-ish people). Music was provided by Helene and Frank from a local duo called “The Two of Us”. Overall a great event.

This is the type of fundraising events that we love! Fundraising in general is fun, and it can feel a little awkward at times because no one likes asking people for money, but when you can put an event together and have people benefit out of it…that is even better and it makes fundraising totally worth it and fun!

We were also very proud to share with those that showed up that we have raised about 20% of our overall adoption goal since we began raising money for adoption, which we still don’t know how that is even possible. When we began researching agencies and finding out the cost of adoption, the total goal seemed like something that scared us, like something we thought we might never reach, but now that we are in full gear in fundraising that total number seems less scary every day. We have faith and know that we will get there and that even though it will take work, it will make it completely worth it in the end and even though the road is still long, we are starting to see the (far) light at the end of the tunnel and we know that some day we will reach it.

Thank you so much for all your love and support so far, it is thanks to all of our friends and family that the road to adoption is becoming easier and easier each day!

Love,

The Guerreros

The Community of Adoption

One of the things we never expected when we decided we were going to adopt was belonging to a new community we didn’t belong to before, the adoption community. We were excited about joining the ranks of parents, even though we are still probably quite a while away from having an actual child in our arms, we knew that we would suddenly enter this group. It also almost felt like when a couple announces a pregnancy, we’ve had family and friends reach out and congratulate us and be excited about the journey we have embarked.

But we never expected to join a new (for us) community, the adoption community.

We know people and close friends who through out the years of friendship have adopted, and while adoption is always a reason to rejoice, it always seemed like something that someone else did. We have discussed in other posts how we had from the beginning felt called to adopt, but it was always something that seemed distant, like hey let’s have a biological kid or two, and then we can consider adoption, or if we had a rough pregnancy we could consider our second child to be adopted. God clearly had different plans for our life as future parents.

Recently we found out about some friends of ours who are also getting ready to adopt (although they are more in a completing the adoption stage), and automatically our hearts felt so happy for them. We knew what the feeling was of sharing with the world your plan of expanding your family through adoption. It felt different than other times we’ve heard of people adopting, it felt like we know exactly what you are going through (although again, they are in a much more advanced stage than we are). It felt like when you are in a certain field or career and hear of a colleague receiving an award or recognition, knowing that the road was long and probably not easy.

As we get ready to close a Fundraiser (which you can still donate to our Go Fund Me until the end of July) and begin a series of exciting fundraisers we have lined up, we can’t help but think that the road is still long, but we are definitely in the middle of it. As we hear and know of other people that have adopted and rejoice with them (and even some we have met through other friends and family circles), we know that there are those certain individuals that know what it is like and that we can share our joy and our tears with, not to forget to mention both of our families have been our #1 supporters and will always be with us no matter where this journey of adoption takes us. We couldn’t be any happier of where we are headed and of having people around who will always stand with us and not just love on us, but love on our future children!

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The One with the Donor (a Friends episode, not our life).

WARNING: This post contains minor spoilers to the show Friends, specifically the final 2 seasons. If you have lived under a rock and never watched this show, then I wouldn’t recommend reading!

imagesMy family likes the show Friends…wait, let me re-phrase that: My family LOVES the show Friends, specifically my Mom, my sister and I (and my wife too since this is one of the things I brought to our marriage). We love the show so much that we literally have for years related to situations in our lives to the characters of the show Friends, specially my sister Jeannie and I.

Danielle and I have always identified to the characters of Chandler and Monica. I am kind of a goof and would rather laugh awkward and uncomfortable situations than take them serious like Chandler, and my wife is very similar to Monica’s personality. Very ordered, clean and an amazing cook (not to forget to mention competitive!). Even our relationship is very similar similar to Chandler and Monica (I mean aside from the fact they slept together a whole season before getting serious, but that’s TV for you) in the way we are around each other. One thing we never thought we would relate to would be to this specific episode.

(Spoiler Alert) In the previous episode, Chandler and Monica got to a point in their journey “trying” with no success that they went ahead and did fertility tests, only to find out that Chandler’s swimmers were slow and Monica has a hostile uterus. OK, as we have said before, we have not gone into detail as far as whether we are able to conceive or not, and that is not important to us in this whole journey of adoption, but the question poses as “what do we do now?” The episode ends with them saying they will figure something out.

Jump to the next episode and in a very typical sitcom way they show how they deal with this rough situation and reality that they may never conceive children. They discuss surrogacy and a sperm donor (and the sperm donor portion is hilarious and awkward in a very typical Friends way) and at the end of the episode Monica decides that if she can’t get pregnant with Chandler’s baby, then she would rather not get pregnant at all. So what is their next option? Adoption!

We relate very well to this episode, although sperm donor and surrogacy was really never something we considered. Our almost immediate jump was adoption and we are so happy we are on board with this. I won’t got into detail as far as what happens next because you can watch the whole show on Netflix, and the way that the adoption of their children is handled is very beautiful in my opinion.

I often think it can be silly how television and the media can use satire and comedy in such a way to inspire us. We all need a good laugh and while the road to get to this point has been difficult, we are very thankful that this is where God has lead us as far as our plans as a family.

As a closing note, this episode contains one of my favorite lines ever and one I jokingly have been repeating to Danielle these past few days: “Shhh…if we are quite enough, we may be hearing the sound of a condom ripping”. So funny!

-Luis