We had a difficult week last week. Without going into much detail we heard of a potential opportunity that seems to have fallen through by this point. While last week was definitely hard for us, we felt that if the time was right, we were ready to receive a child in our home.
Our baby room is pretty much all set. Obviously it will forever be a work in progress as we add and as a child grows in it, but we have the basics of what you need to welcome a child. First few months, the baby would sleep in our room obviously, but it is definitely good to know that we have everything pretty much set and ready to go.
One thing that we have learned and has been the hardest for us is that with adoption there is no time frame, it isn’t like having biological children that you know you have so many months to prepare for a child, that has been one of the hardest things for us. Yes, we could get a call that a pregnant woman wants to meet us and she may be half way through pregnancy or close to giving birth and that would give us some kind of hypothetical time frame, but we could also just get a call and have to take off. We are grateful that we have both had that talk with our employers that we may just need to leave suddenly one day and start our leave at work, we are both blessed to have understanding bosses that are perfectly OK with that happening.
We are more ready than we have ever been, our home and hearts are so ready for this!
So far we have been slightly slow on the “getting the baby room ready” department, this is mostly because of the fact that we have been on the waiting list to be on the waiting list, and then on another official waiting list. We didn’t want to get too excited about buying baby things, assembling furniture and preparing the room because we figured “it’s going to be a while”.
That is until now of course! If you scroll down to our previous blog post (as in this one right here), you will remember that we FINALLY got taken off the official waiting list and are now ready to be moved to being an active family for potential birth parents to view our profile. We have been careful with not setting up the baby room and getting too much baby stuff until this point. We’ve been given a few things like a crib, bassinet, high chair and a few necessities. Today we bought a few other things to set up “the room” and feels great to be nesting.
The time is coming close for us…well at least we would like to think it is close. Yesterday we got to fill out some paperwork (some of it hard to do, more on that in a later post) and our home study is just about finalized. We are about to officially become a “listed” family with our agency, Adoption Assistance Agency. The Agency we are working with only works with 10 families at a time and we are getting moved up to being one of those active families that they work with. This means once everything is set to go we could get a call in a matter of weeks or it could be months (or longer) that either a birth parent is interested in our profile or they could call us telling us a baby has been born that fits our profile. We are being proactive and trying to be as ready as we can for when the baby comes because as we have said before, when you’re adopting there really isn’t a specific time frame to wait, it could be from one moment to another that we could be parents.
We want to be ready for you!
Future Mom and Dad!
One of the things we never expected when we decided we were going to adopt was belonging to a new community we didn’t belong to before, the adoption community. We were excited about joining the ranks of parents, even though we are still probably quite a while away from having an actual child in our arms, we knew that we would suddenly enter this group. It also almost felt like when a couple announces a pregnancy, we’ve had family and friends reach out and congratulate us and be excited about the journey we have embarked.
But we never expected to join a new (for us) community, the adoption community.
We know people and close friends who through out the years of friendship have adopted, and while adoption is always a reason to rejoice, it always seemed like something that someone else did. We have discussed in other posts how we had from the beginning felt called to adopt, but it was always something that seemed distant, like hey let’s have a biological kid or two, and then we can consider adoption, or if we had a rough pregnancy we could consider our second child to be adopted. God clearly had different plans for our life as future parents.
Recently we found out about some friends of ours who are also getting ready to adopt (although they are more in a completing the adoption stage), and automatically our hearts felt so happy for them. We knew what the feeling was of sharing with the world your plan of expanding your family through adoption. It felt different than other times we’ve heard of people adopting, it felt like we know exactly what you are going through (although again, they are in a much more advanced stage than we are). It felt like when you are in a certain field or career and hear of a colleague receiving an award or recognition, knowing that the road was long and probably not easy.
As we get ready to close a Fundraiser (which you can still donate to our Go Fund Me until the end of July) and begin a series of exciting fundraisers we have lined up, we can’t help but think that the road is still long, but we are definitely in the middle of it. As we hear and know of other people that have adopted and rejoice with them (and even some we have met through other friends and family circles), we know that there are those certain individuals that know what it is like and that we can share our joy and our tears with, not to forget to mention both of our families have been our #1 supporters and will always be with us no matter where this journey of adoption takes us. We couldn’t be any happier of where we are headed and of having people around who will always stand with us and not just love on us, but love on our future children!