The light is becoming a little brighter

743473_70247642.jpgSo on Friday we got some great news from our agency! Not huge news, but it is news, which at this point any news is great news!

We get to go in May to Albuquerque (where our agency’s office is, which for those of you not local is about 2 1/2 hours from here) for our agency’s quarterly orientation/training for new adoptive families.

OK, so maybe it is huge news! This by no means is saying that we are close at all to completing our adoption process, but it is a step forward and at this point any step we take feels like a huge leap. After this event in May we will hopefully work on getting our home study done and then be listed for prospective birth moms to review our profile. How crazy is that?! We are both in awe that after almost a full year of praying, raising funds and preparing ourselves things seem to be moving along.

This event can’t come any faster!

 

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Holding on

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To say the phrase above relates to our adoption journey is probably an understatement of our adoption journey and the process that has been developing in our hearts.

First of all, we realized that it was almost around a year ago when we started to wonder if having kids “the natural way” was even an option for us. We had a lot of doubt and a lot fear in our minds, we weren’t sure even if we wanted to face the thought that maybe we were struggling with infertility. One day it hit us like a ton of bricks, we knew that maybe that was the reason why every month that test kept saying negative and that perhaps it was time to start exploring other options. That was the moment when our hearts began this transformation towards adoption.

We have said before that adoption was something we always thought we wanted to do and something we saw ourselves down the line doing, so maybe this is why the shift was a little easier than we would have thought at first. God knew that our hearts would endure the challenge and patience of going through the adoption process.

Even this is not about us.

Many things had to happen for us to get to the point of deciding that adoption was the way for us and that our family would be somewhat “non traditional” (because to us, there is nothing non traditional about adopting, although in the general sense of some people it might be). We often think of the blessing that child will be in our lives, and also about the fact that this child is being hand picked by God to live and be raised in our home and how He is giving him or her the opportunity to live in a loving home.

Yes, our family will not be the norm in the eyes of the world but it will be to us, and our kids through the gift of adoption.

How exciting!

Adoption buffering

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The picture above is exactly how we have been feeling lately, like we are buffering. Over a month ago we finally heard from our agency that we are off the “unofficial” waiting list onto the “official” waiting list. We know this can sound confusing because it is…the agency we are working only works with 10 families and has a waiting list of 5 families, so we were waiting to get into the list of 5 so we can be one of the 10 that they actively work with.

Last month we filled all our adoption application paperwork as well as the first part of our home study paperwork and were told that we would hear back from them as soon as we were ready to move up on the list again. This is why we feel like we have entered an “adoption buffering zone”, where we are just waiting for something to happen.

A lot of people ask us what is going on and in all honesty we wish we had better news for you all, this is why we haven’t been updating the blog very much but hopefully we hear some news soon. In the mean time we keep waiting, and waiting, and will keep waiting.

Love,

The Guerreros

So this just happened

12383574_1502707270036517_358613361_nHere is a picture of Danielle filling out our adoption application (OK, we are filling it together but she has prettier handwriting) and our cat photobombing her in the back.

The application is very detailed and asks a lot of personal information and so does the whole process, but as we fill this out we are in awe that we finally have reached this point in this adoption adventure. We still have a long way to go and this is only the beginning, it will still be a couple months until we do our home study, state/adoption orientation and then on to waiting for a pregnant woman to pick us to adopt her baby, but this is where it starts and financially we are still a little more than half way where we need to be, but we will get there.

2016 so far is starting awesome!

HUGE news we need to share

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OK, huge to us!

Today we received a very awesome e-mail that we were not expecting at all. Our adoption agency let us know that we are officially on the waiting list, the actual waiting list!

Let’s pause for a second and explain what this means. The agency we are working with has a list of 10 active families that are listed and their profiles are shown to potential birth mothers. When we first signed up with the agency we were added to a waiting-waiting list and now we have been bumped up to the official waiting list, of which they only allow 5 families to be on at all times. This means as families adopt their child, we move up on the list, and this means there are only 4 families ahead of us and then we are officially an active family after that, which means we will be one step closer to adopt our kid.

Oh wow!

So what happens next? This is the even more exciting part of the huge news we received. We were sent the adoption application and questionnaires for our home study and we need to fill them out before January 18th. This means…WE FOR REAL OFFICIALLY GET TO START THE ADOPTION PROCESS!!!

Yes, this is not anymore “hey we are adopting and hey we are on a list and we are waiting”, this means we actually get to begin the process of adoption. This is so crazy!

We will keep you posted on the next steps of the process, but we are both overjoyed and can’t believe that this huge step just happened!

Looking back, it was quite a year!

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And just like that, 2015 is over, it’s gone and it is never coming back!

Wow!

We say this because 2015 was the definition of a roller coaster for us, but in a good way. As we reminisce on what last year brought to our lives, we can’t help but to think where we were one year ago. As we were driving back from some friends house roughly past midnight, we remembered how a year ago was one of those many days when we were hoping we were finally expecting, only to be dissapointed a couple days later with that not being the case. It became a month to month occurrence for us, until we started wondering around April and May that maybe there was a reason why the test was always negative and why maybe it wasn’t happening for us.

You all know where we came from when we began our adoption journey back in June of this year (and if not, you can read our first blog post here) and as we decided we would commit to adoption, there was also a big factor of insecurity for us, specially in the financial aspect as we decided to go through the route of a private domestic adoption, which is very costly and there is no way around that. We were afraid of that huge number and were unsure if we could even ever get to that number, but it really is by the grace of God and our very loving friends and family who have helped and participated in our various fundraising events, that the number seems less and less scary every day, which not so long ago seemed like an impossible thing for us.

As we are entering 2016, we don’t know when we will get the call saying “Mr and Mrs Guerrero, we have a baby for you” or “a pregnant woman has picked you to adopt her child”, we just don’t know when that will happen, but we are taking baby steps (pun accidentally intended) to make that moment happen.

Last year was a very challenging, yet eye opening and good year for us and we are looking forward to what this year is going to bring!

Happy New Year from our family to yours!

Love,

Luis & Danielle

 

Going, going, gone!

It’s been a couple weeks since we’ve updated our blog and it has been a busy couple weeks! Between getting ready for the holidays and work, we have been really busy and all over the place!

One thing we want to report is that yesterday we closed our Online Auction and we are both amazed at the generosity of family and friends to help us in the race of raising money for our adoption and we are happy to report that we raised about $2,000 with this fundraiser. Wow!

The main story that we take away from the auction is the tale of the cheesecake picture below.

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The story of the cheesecake:

The top selling item that we had was a lemon cheesecake that sold for $150. This cheesecake is a legend among the people that we attend church with, and for good reason!

Okay. so for those of who have never experienced this cheesecake, I am fully aware that $150 sounds like an insane amount for a cheesecake. If i had not experienced this gem in real life, I might be inclined to agree. The amazing lady that makes this treat is named Jo. She is a dear friend of ours, and attends our church. Her husband was the realtor that helped us to find our house. Her cheesecake is delicious, and special to us for a few reasons.

Reason #1: It’s a secret recipe

We have had this discussion with people. Part of the reason that we are all so obsessed with this thing is that it is a secret family recipe. Unlike some secret recipes, this one is under lock and key. A little mystery always makes things better.

Reason #2: It’s beautifully crafted, and made with love

Cliche, I know. But you can actually taste the love and time that has been put into making it. Jo takes such care to present her cheesecake to look and taste amazing. For our auction, she presented it on a lovely serving tray. she takes pride in making sure that it is as lovely as it tastes.

Most Importantly, Reason #3: It’s a representation of the amazing community that we have been blessed with.

Our auction was a huge success. We had a ton of items that we auctioned off, and had 80 people attend the auction online and place bids. We had friends and family who got into auction turf wars over items, and had some friendly competitions. We had bids from people out of state, and internationally. The outpouring of support that we received has been so amazing and touching.  We had people generously donate more than just material goods. They donated time, energy, love, support, and community. We have made new friends, changed and strengthened relationships, and grown as a family. One of the reasons that this $150 cheesecake means so much to us, is that it represents that community of love and support that we are so excited to have.

Luis and I are so excited to share the story of the cheesecake with Baby G. We are so excited to have our child grown up with such a community of love ans support. We cannot wait until all the people that are part of our circle of family and friends get to meet Baby G, and continue to love and support us.  We know that we are still early on this path, and have miles of road to go, but with the amazing support that we have we feel confident that we will reach our destination! Baby G, we are working for you!

~Danielle